Maybe this question strikes you as a bit odd because you’re so unfamiliar with creating a possibility. In my business I come across many that have kept themselves stuck. And yes, I do mean that they kept themselves stuck. Sure, we can blame others, circumstances, etc. and, we also have a responsibility.
The reason I mention creating a possibility first, is if you don’t, you will
focus on being stuck. Thereby bringing in more examples of why things don’t work out. Before you know it, you’ll be feeling quite hopeless and filled with fear and doubt. Desperately wanting to reach your goal, yet upset because you don’t believe it’s possible.
I have helped many who were stuck at a job or company and at first couldn’t see a way out. In one particular situation, I was told that if they left the company, they feared that the pattern of misery would continue and that they would have to start over in terms of their benefits. Which would mean that therefore they actually be worse off. Or they would give examples of other people that started at another company and weren’t happier, further propelling the idea that positive change was impossible.
When we don’t create a possibility, we remain stuck and focused on all the negatives. With time, as already mentioned fear and doubt builds up, almost paralyzing us mentally. Let’s take another example. Say that you want to be in a happy relationship but all your past romantic relationships have ended terribly. If you focus on this, you will start to believe that you can’t have a happy relationship and feel stuck, miserable and likely even angry.
Instead as a first step create the possibility that by the beginning of next year for example, you are in a happy, healthy relationship. Now by focusing on this, your subconscious mind goes to work. You may perhaps start to take action by getting on a dating site with a different attitude or join groups based on your interests. Taking action that will put you more out there, and help make the possibility a reality. It’s like that quote by Henry Ford “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” You will prove yourself right, based on what you believe. So, do you choose to prove yourself right in terms of creating what you declared possible? Or do you prove yourself right by making the belief about the inability to accomplish your goal a reality? It’s your choice.
As a first step for anything, I recommend getting into the habit of creating a possibility. By the time clients reach out to me, a possibility has been was created…even if it was a glimpse of hope. It prompted them to take action, which enabled them to get some amazing results. For help making your possibility a reality, click on the link for a FREE intake session.